Stages of Grief | Class of 2020 | Anjeanette Senior Photography Peoria, Anthem, Phoenix Az
/““The five stages, denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief. Not everyone goes through all of them or in a prescribed order. Our hope is that with these stages comes the knowledge of grief ‘s terrain, making us better equipped to cope with life and loss. At times, people in grief will often report more stages. Just remember your grief is as unique as you are.” ”
Not gonna lie, the past two days have been very tough. I am beyond broken-hearted for the Class of 2020- my daughter and niece are on my mind constantly as are all the grads. Simply put: this sucks. And I know I know I know we need to look for the positives, I know how important self-care is and I am praying for all of you to take care. Eventually, the clouds will pass. I hope things can be rescheduled. If not I am looking forward to seeing communities rise up to host amazing block party graduations or impromptu proms. I will be here when we get the all-clear that it is safe to resume for cap and gown photos and prom dress sessions...but right now? It just sucks. Mourning is a natural part of grief. At this point, we have heard all of this already obvs. I was hearing it in what was apparently my denial phase, however, so today I am letting it really sink in. Can't go over it, can't go under it, have to go through it. this year has turned into a bear hunt. We will find peace and normal again someday. But it ok to feel that sad, disappointed feeling. Some days it feels like I am going through all five stages of grief all the same time. We lost a lot this year, and logically I know that better things are to come, that this will fuel your future, eventually the storm clouds pass. It's more than ok to grieve, it's actually important to heal and move on in a positive way! I am giving myself a grief timeline. Like I have X number of days to fully feel the hard feelings and then it is time to move on - that's what works for me, it keeps me from forever wallowing in grief and losing sight of the future. I don't intend to become victimized by any negative experience. That may not work for you- how we experience and process grief doesn't work the same for everyone.
After my sad days are up...it will be time to find NEW ways to celebrate the seniors I know and love personally. And to celebrate the seniors I have never even met! What ideas do you have for that? What would a new way to celebrate look like for you?
I didn’t get to finish the season…so many seniors still to meet! After the danger passes we have plans to reschedule, and I am happy to figure out ways to celebrate you before your next adventures start- or if you want to come back on a fall adventure break (from college, military service, jobs, or other adventures) an finally get that cap n gown photo :)
Let’s try to make the best of it. Photos can be rescheduled, your health is most important now! Stay home, learn new things and rest. The future will be here before you know it!
